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May 2021
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Psychologist Debunks 5 Love Myths That W...

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It doesn’t matter what culture or social climate you were raised in, you come into adulthood, womanhood carrying the burden of social demands, pressure, and expectations that weigh heavily. Maybe you’ve never questioned the beliefs you have around how a woman acts, what true love looks like, or if being your true authentic self is even an option. Who is she? What does she like? How does she feel about herself, marriage, or children? In this episode, Lisa is joined by the NYT bestselling author and clinical psychologist, Dr. Shefali. The conversation gets super real and right to the heart of breaking down belief systems that are keeping you trapped so you can rethink and discern beliefs that are uniquely empowering for you as an individual woman. Order Dr. Shefali’s book, A Radical Awakening: https://www.aradicalawakening.com/ 


SHOW NOTES: 

Belief System | Dr. Shefali on how beliefs restrain you from discovering who you are [2:35]

Love Debunked | The idea and agenda of love as an idea that comes with expectations [5:16]

Motherhood | Dr. Shefali explores Lisa’s backlash deciding to not have children [11:25]

Motherhood Pressure | Dr. Shefali debunks mothers just identifying through their child [17:41]

Authentic Life | Dr. Shefali explains and Lisa punctuates discerning life on your terms [23:19]

Beauty & Youth | Dr. Shefali breaks down positive & negative of the standard of beauty [26:30]

Feeding Insecurities | The problem with tying self-worth to the physical & being powerful [36:45]

Niceness | Dr. Shefali debunks being nice and embracing the bitch and authenticity [41:17]

True Essence | Dr. Shefali reveals your true essence is not destructible, false self hurts [45:20]

Toxic Femininity | When good qualities of femininity is extreme and excessive [47:29]  


Follow Dr. Shefali:

Website: https://www.drshefali.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/drshefali

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrShefaliTsabary

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKzsU94h-PkLBiF5xHo-SjQ


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