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Feb 2023
11m 10s

How to Stop Saying Sorry Too Much - Stop...

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam
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Stop apologizing and improve your self-esteem in this course by expert Dr. Carly LeBaron: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/improve-your-self-esteem

Have you ever found yourself saying sorry for things that didn’t really deserve an apology in the first place? I once had a friend ask me “do you always apologize after giving someone a gift?” It shook me a little because I had no idea I was doing that. But when I started watching myself I totally did. I grew up in a culture of over-apologizing and it wasn’t until my 30’s that I realized how harmful it can be. Saying sorry too much undermines how others see you and how you see yourself, and that can really impact you both at home and in the workplace. In this video you’ll learn why you say sorry too much, how this messes up relationships and how to stop over-apologizing.

00:00 Introduction to over-apologizing

00:57 Learn to improve your self-esteem with this course

01:29 What Is Over-Apologizing, and Is It a Problem?

03:03 Why do People Over-Apologize?

05:33 4 Steps to stop over-apologizing

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Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction.

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If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services.

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