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Mar 2022
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The science of physical punishment and s...

CINDY HOVINGTON, PH.D.
About this episode

I know this is a topic that might cause some controversy, but I think this is an important one to have.

When it comes to parenting, I always suggest we follow our gut and trust ourselves, however, given the strong evidence that suggests we should avoid using physical punishment with our children, not spanking our children is something that I stand firmly behind.

In today's solo episode with Cindy (which also happens to be our 50th episode!), we discuss why physical punishment may lead to several outcomes when our children are adults.

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https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/index.html

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The study I referenced in our episode can be viewed with the link below:
Thompson et al. European Child & Adolescent Psychiatry. 2003


One more article about physical punishment is below:
Pediatrics 2012;130:1–9

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