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Feb 2023
49m 32s

Melinda Wenner Moyer: Raising kind human...

CINDY HOVINGTON, PH.D.
About this episode

In today’s episode, we are joined by Melinda Wenner Moyer, award-winning science journalist and author of How to raise kids who aren’t assholes.

Here’s what we talked about:

5:19 - What inspired the book

9:31 - Why is your main message “communication is key?”

12:32 - How can we raise a kind human?

15:48 - How can we foster our child’s emotions if we weren’t raised that way?

21:25 - Should all kids be bullied to become resilient?

27:16 - What are parenting styles and are they really important?

31:36 - What is discipline really?

34:14 - How do you teach your kids compassion and empathy: connecting the dots

38:40 - If I get called into the principal’s office because my child is a bully, what can I do ?

44:18 - How could you talk to your child about racism

46:05 - Melinda’s takeaways

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