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Jan 2023
56m 4s

Why Don't We Get Better?

RICK HANSON, PH.D., FORREST HANSON
About this episode
This is the podcast’s five-year anniversary, and over that time I’ve submerged myself in psychology, self-help, and personal growth content - and as a result I’ve changed in many important ways. At the same time, some things have been very hard to change. It's surprising how even after learning so much I still often feel like I’m pushing the same old rocks u ... Show More
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