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Dec 2022
35m 24s

Why the Tears?

Ten Percent Happier
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Some of us are big criers, some of us are not. But does it really matter? Today: Two tears experts who have experimented with this idea in the lab and in real life let us in on their insights. We hear from Reverend Benjamin Perry, author of the forthcoming book Cry Baby, who taught himself not to cry, then set out to get his tears back. Later, we’ll hear from Dutch Psychologist Ad Vingerhoets who has spent a large part of his career studying the meaning of tears.


Special thanks to Patricia Angelin for her help with this episode.


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