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Jul 2024
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The Science Of Crying: Evolutionary Root...

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Reverend Benjamin Perry, is the author of Cry, Baby: Why Our Tears Matter. He's the editorial director at Garrett Seminary, Consulting Minister for Public Theology at Middle Church, and editor of the Queer Faith photojournalism series. He has a masters in divinity from Union Theological Seminary. 


In this episode we talk about:

  • Why Doty got interested in this subject, and the rather extraordinary exercise he put himself through
  • The gender differences on this issue
  • How vulnerability can be misused or weaponized
  • The issue of interpersonal relationships when it comes to tears (Bianca and Dan delve into this in regards to their relationship)
  • How we replay childhood patterns in grownup relationships
  • The deep connection between crying and shame
  • The messages we share with our children about crying
  • How we can reconnect to the emotional parts of ourselves


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