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Dec 2022
52m 3s

How to Complain Productively

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
About this episode
We often look down on people who complain a lot. Yet when something goes wrong in our own lives, many of us go straight to griping, grumbling and kvetching. This week. we talk with psychologist Robin Kowalski about how we can complain more effectively. We'll also hear from psychologist Mike Baer, who offers ways we can give better feedback to a friend or col ... Show More
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