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Nov 2022
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Moving Beyond “Fair” to Build a Great Re...

RICK HANSON, PH.D., FORREST HANSON
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These days couples often shoot for 50/50 in their relationships: an even split of responsibilities in the home or at work. But 50/50 often leads to fights over fairness, and this fixation on fairness can be the death of many relationships. On this episode of Being Well, Forrest and Dr. Rick are joined by Nate and Kaley Klemp to explore how we can build fun, ... Show More
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