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Nov 2022
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Day 3: Death, But Fun!

Ten Percent Happier
About this episode

Today we get some surprisingly joyful insights about coping with the dread of death – whether we’re concerned about our own mortality or losing those we love. It’s Day Three of The Dread Project Challenge, a five-day series that investigates an emotion so many of us are struggling with lately – from our dread of the next Zoom meeting to worries that have life-and-death stakes. Each day of the challenge, we tackle dread in a different way, and offer you a fun exercise for feeling a little better, even when you’re anticipating the worst. 


Dread of death might be the ultimate dread we face in life, but Clinical Psychologist Rachel Menzies and Death Doula Alua Arthur explain why remembering we will die – instead of trying to forget – can help us accept the inevitable.


Check out dreadproject.com for more information about The Dread Project and daily prompts for The Dread Project Challenge. Please share how today’s Dread Project Challenge went for you by sending us a voice memo at morethanafeeling@tenpercent.com. Don’t forget to give us your name and where you’re from, and you might hear yourself on an upcoming episode!


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For more information about More Than A Feeling, The Dread Project, and today’s guests, check out our show notes at: www.tenpercent.com/mtaf-podcast-episodes/death-but-fun. And follow us on Twitter at podfeelings.


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