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Oct 2022
53m 38s

Thriving in the Face of Contradiction

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
About this episode

We all face tough decisions in life, whether we're juggling the demands of work and family or deciding whether to take a new job. These situations often feel like either/or choices.  But psychologist Wendy Smith says this binary way of confronting dilemmas contains a trap.  She offers a different way to think about difficult choices, one that opens up unexpected possibilities. 

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