As long as humans have existed, we’ve had to choose between our lower and higher desires — between what we want in the moment, and what we want in the long-term. As long as humans have existed, we’ve had to exercise self-control.
While exercising self-control has always been part of the human condition, our ideas about it have changed through the ages, as h ... Show More
Feb 3
How to Help Disengaged Young Men Reclaim Drive and Direction
Not long ago, the primary concern people had about boys was that they were wild, impulsive, and out of control — getting into fights, pushing limits, and stirring up trouble. Today, the problem has flipped. The more common challenge isn’t reckless behavior, but inert passivity. M ... Show More
44m 30s
Jan 27
The Click Effect — Inside the Science and Magic of Social Chemistry
We’ve all had that feeling — you meet someone new, and the conversation just flows. You’re in sync. You click. But what’s really happening when that magic occurs?My guest today is journalist Kate Murphy, author of Why We Click: The Emerging Science of Interpersonal Synchrony, and ... Show More
54m 6s
Jan 20
How Football Took Over America — and Could Collapse
American football is so big — so braided into our weekends, our language, and our culture — that it can be hard to see it clearly as a whole.In his new book, Football, Chuck Klosterman helps us see the game from unexpected angles, and argues that football isn’t just a sport, it’s ... Show More
57m 40s
Oct 2022
Beyond the Controlling Self - Part 2
<p>Beyond the Controlling Self - Part 2 - It's natural that we do what we can to ward off danger and further ourselves. While our control strategies – such as aggression, judging, planning, seeking approval, pretending – have a developmental role, they are not a recipe for happi ... Show More
51m 1s
May 2023
#549: Self-Kindness for the Self-Critical Person
In this episode, we're discussing the important topic of self-kindness, specifically for those who tend to be self-critical. It's all too easy to fall into the trap of negative self-talk and self-blame, but learning to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion is key to buildi ... Show More
38m 8s