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Oct 2022
23m 28s

How to Disarm a Trigger

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

A leader causing upset among her people is given a coach. In conversation, they examine what might be triggering people to be upset with her. The exploration leads to a simple, yet difficult, idea.

Transcripts of every episode are available for download in our library

Tom mentioned two episodes with mindfulness tools. They are: 

The Mindful Executive

The Focused Executive.


This episode is filed in three categories in the library:

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk


In addition to the mindfulness episodes, five other related episodes are:

204 Blind Spots

119 Creating Devoted Followers

171 Taming the Wild Child

190 Thinking Errors

96 The Many Parts of You


Listen to Tom’s conversation with Kim O’Hara on “You Should Write a Book About That.”  

Listen to Tom’s conversation with Marcel van de Hoef on “The Happy Investor.”  


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Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

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