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Oct 2022
23m 28s

How to Disarm a Trigger

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode
A leader causing upset among her people is given a coach. In conversation, they examine what might be triggering people to be upset with her. The exploration leads to a simple, yet difficult, idea. Transcripts of every episode are available for download in our library. Tom mentioned two episodes with mindfulness tools. They are: The Mindful Executive The F ... Show More
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