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Sep 2022
51m 9s

Can A Player Change? w/ Neil Strauss

Violet Benson
About this episode

Besties, throughout September we covered all things personal growth and really checked in with each other. So the best way to end this month is by talking to Neil Strauss, a ten-time New York Times best-selling author. His books, The Game and Rules Of The Game, for which he went undercover in a secret society of pickup artists for two years, made him an international celebrity and an accidental hero to men around the world. Though this sounds a little questionable, the topic here is GROWTH, which is exactly what’s displayed here today. 

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet and Neil begin the conversation by diving right into the controversy of his best selling book, The Game. Violet asks Neil to dive deep to help people understand who he was at that time and unpack the chokehold the book had on society. Of course, this isn't an Almost Adulting episode if the two didn’t talk about relationships. Neil explains why divorce was one of the best things him and his ex-wife could have ever done, leading them to having an amazing relationship today. They also discuss the common mistakes that often lead to breakups, how to move on from said breakups, and why a cheater will remain a cheater unless they mention these specific words…tune in Besties!


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Introduction
  • 02:40 This is how lonely I’ve gotten
  • 04:41 See you guys again at Hollywood Improv!
  • 08:25 I get to experience being 15 years old again
  • 11:39 The Game
  • 17:32 What’s the dirtiest advice?
  • 19:20 Non-violent communication
  • 22:37 If you’re both not ready, it’s not going to happen
  • 24:22 Getting drawn to people familiar to you
  • 27:32 Work on yourself and improve your emotional intelligence
  • 28:42 Can a player change their ways?
  • 31:37 Both partner have to make the relationship work
  • 34:12 A relationships isn’t a failure if it ends
  • 36:18 How to create a happy relationship?
  • 37:32 How do you move on from a relationship that didn’t work?
  • 39:20 When you see your partner like a parent
  • 43:28 How do you overcome being the villain?
  • 45:35 The cheating ex
  • 46:54 Do you believe cheaters can change?


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