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Feb 2022
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THIS Is What it Actually Takes to Have a...

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The truth about happy long lasting relationships and marriages is that most times, couples don’t know how they survive, but in hindsight they can see what worked and what didn’t. Tom and Lisa have been thriving together for over 20 years. Through many trials and errors they have found the secret to building a healthy and lasting relationship. Lisa takes Tom through several topics they formulated 26 hardcore questions around that keep the love strong and the relationship focused on what matters. In their experience, thriving together has looked like telling each other hard truths, handing over their insecurities and vulnerabilities to each other in exchange for a beautiful shared life experience.


SHOW NOTES:

Desire | Tom shares why understanding your partner’s changing wants over time is critical [0:55]

Perfect Day | Toms reveals what a perfect day would be if Lisa was down for anything [4:31]

Speak Up | The importance of letting your partner know what makes you happy [6:00]

Setup for the Win | How to set your partner up for the win and being happy[10:34]

Trust | Tom discusses what total trust looks like for a healthy thriving relationship [12:33]

Broken Trust | Tom and Lisa discuss ways to open up again after trust is broken [18:57]

Insecurities | The importance of never using your partner insecurities to hurt them [23:17]

Irreversible | Lisa shares 3 major things that can’t be taken back in healthy relationship [26:21]

Hard Truth | Asking your partner the one trait they want in a partner, you don’t have [32:00]

Reconsidering | Ask the hard question, what would make you reconsider the relationship [41:10]

Disruptors | Lisa and Tom break down how to pattern interrupt big arguments [44:29]


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