Hebrews 13:4 and 1 Corinthians 6:18 tell us that sex was designed for marriage. Period. Any sex outside of those boundaries is sin. Most Christians are aware of this but don't fully understand the why.
It isn’t just that God wants to control us or prevent us from having fun. Quite the opposite, He wanted sex to be a sacred unique experience that binds us together with our spouse, the person we vow to spend the rest of our life and our burdens with. He desired it to be for our good and for our pleasure and knows exactly how the enemy seeks to destroy our joy and our fun by twisting sex into a source of pain, emotionless pleasure, and deviant conquest.
The enemy says that God’s expectations are oppressive and impossible, he manipulates us with the same lies that he told adam and eve, that to eat the forbidden fruit is to escape God’s limitations on us, in actuality what it really does is separate us from God’s fullness, His provisions are not limitations and they are always better for us than anything we could acquire or experience apart from Him.
The devil wants to distract us with shame, insecurity, lust, and addiction so that we lose sight of the significance of becoming united as one flesh as explained in Matthew 19:6.
Marital sex is to be the consummation of a lifetime commitment made by two people.
Jesus often used parables to illustrate God’s commands and behaved in ways that projected God’s love for us in a tangible way. Humans are visual and tactile learners, we need examples and hands-on experiences to fully appreciate and learn something new.
2 Corinthians 11:2 tells us that marriage was designed by God as a picture, a tangible expression of the covenant relationship He wants with us.
Sex is the most intimate relationship two human beings can have, It is representative of the intimacy God created us to enjoy with Him and only Him. In marital sex, there is a giving over of the body, and in our spiritual relationship with God, we are to present our bodies as a living sacrifice. Romans 12:1-2
According to Exodus 24:8 covenants were always consummated with the shedding of blood, when a woman loses her virginity and the hymen breaks blood is shed. This seals or activates the covenant made between a man and a woman.
Our covenant with God was consummated when the blood of Christ was shed for us. His commitment to save us, love us, forgive us no matter what we do required the greatest blood sacrifice of all time. Hebrews 13:20.
Marital sex is so much more than an outlet for sexual desire or a means of procreation, it is a holy representation of the intimacy that God wants to share with us. Just like in marriage we can become distracted and unfaithful to God. Our culture is fighting for sexual freedom which is synonymous with abandoning our covenant with God.
Following God and staying faithful to His commands is not glamorous, it often means surrendering our desires and our motivations for His. It is a worthy sacrifice to know that despite the pain in the process, He is committed to working all things together for your good!
Next week begins the Difficult Conversations portion of this series where we will discuss talking to your kids about sex in various stages!
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