Talk about sex – Get comfortable with the idea of leaning into discussions about your sex life with your spouse. It is the least discussed topic in most homes and is a leading cause for separation and divorce.
Sex was meant to be fun and satisfying – church and religious stigma have created a distorted view that satisfying and exciting sex is for the sinner but it was created by God as a beautiful gift for the married.
Satan has successfully dismantled the perception of sex and Christians need to fight that narrative by being open about sex instead of ashamed of it.
There is only one prohibition related to sex in the bible and that is that sex should be between a man and his wife, anything that involves bringing another person into the sexual relationship would be a violation of this provision. This is good news because that means God leaves a lot of room to explore.
One of the greatest gifts of sex is orgasm
People who are depressed, unhappy, anxious, have low self-esteem, unresolved trauma, poor diet, and exercise are more likely to experience sexual issues.
Taking poor care of your physical health compromises libido and self-esteem. Sometimes we develop unhealthy coping mechanisms that mimic the healthy release of endorphins.
Endorphins are the body's natural painkillers they also play a key role in long-term relationships. They produce a general sense of well-being, including feeling soothed, peaceful and secure. Like dopamine and norepinephrine, endorphins are released during sex and orgasm; they are also released during physical contact, exercise, fear, love, music, chocolate-eating, and laughter.
Oxytocin is released during sexual intercourse but is also associated with mother/infant bonding, uterine contractions during labor in childbirth, and the "let down" reflex necessary for breastfeeding.
We may want to fight God’s divine design for sex but science agrees, there is great significance in sexual bonding and the longevity of relationships. The more we engage in casual sex or dismiss the importance of sex in maintaining a strong relationship the less likely we will be to stay married.
References and Resources
https://attheu.utah.edu/facultystaff/premarital-sex-and-divorce/
https://www.intimina.com/blog/sex-on-the-brain/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201602/why-so-many-women-don-t-have-orgasms
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