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Sep 2022
1h 14m

Punishing yourself for your mistakes

PAUL COLAIANNI
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It's bad enough to get punished by someone else when you make a mistake, but to compound the suffering by punishing yourself can make things so much worse. Sure, we can beat ourselves up for our own actions, but when we make a habit of it, our quality of life decreases and it's hard to enjoy the present moment.  
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