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Sep 2022
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(Rewind): Don’t Settle For Less. Settle ...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

There's a huge difference between settling FOR something in life and settling ON something. When we "settle for" something, it's often the result of us lowering our standards. We accommodate bad behavior and accept less than what we truly desire because we don't think we're worthy of it. We think "this might be as good as it's going to get" whether in our love life, family, or career.

But when we "settle on" something, we take control of it. 

At this point, we're deciding that at the very least, this relationship or situation has the potential to meet enough of our criteria for true happiness. 

We choose it and actively commit to making it great. What happens next is that we feel connected to it, and as a result, we enjoy the process of sculpting it (even if it's not perfect at first).

In this clip taken from my latest Virtual Retreat, I explain why I'm a big believer in this concept and how it can change your relationship with life.

And if you want to spend 3 days of immersive coaching with me, then I'd love for you to join me for the final Virtual Retreat of the year happening November 11-13.

Here we'll get to work together to help you decide where in life you're "settling for" less than you truly want and where you want to "settle on" sculpting the best version of yourself, your relationships, your career, and your confidence.

Just head over to MHVirtualRetreat.com to learn more.

#DontSettleForLess

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