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Aug 2022
54m 12s

Trick Yourself Out Of Low Self Esteem w/...

Violet Benson
About this episode

Sometimes the hardest part about dealing with a breakup, isn’t always the breakup. It’s figuring out how to overcome the feeling of failure and low self esteem that can come shortly after.

To wrap up breakup month on Almost Adulting, today we welcome licensed psychologist Guy Winch! Guy is a leading advocate for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives, workplaces, and education systems. He is also the author and co-host of the popular podcast, Dear Therapist. In this episode Violet and Guy give us the hard truth about why we often blame ourselves when a relationship falls apart, how chronic loneliness (backed by science) is detrimental to our wellbeing, and even the types of text message you can send to get the answers you want! Finally, Violet and Guy dive into the age old issue of actions vs. words and what you need to do if you’re stuck in this situation. Besties, emotions are overwhelming, but we can all use some help sometimes. Tune in to this episode for some help we all need.


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Introduction
  • 00:47 The importance of emotional aid
  • 04:35 What happens when people are lonely
  • 11:59 Low self esteem 
  • 14:19 You alone can’t save a relationship
  • 16:03 Why do we feel guilty when a relationship fails?
  • 19:54 The first 5 minutes into the date
  • 23:22 “You deserve better…”
  • 26:00 How can somebody build emotional resilience?
  • 27:32 Complaint versus confrontation
  • 29:40 Anxiety is not an immediate threat
  • 35:05 Different friends fulfill different functions in our life 


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