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Jun 2022
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Relationship Expert Reveals The TRUTH BE...

Impact Theory
About this episode

Once upon a time someone started telling stories about falling in love, being swept off your feet and feeling butterflies in your stomach was a sign this person must be the one. How many of you have honestly deceived yourself trusting those butterflies? What if we told you, those butterflies didn’t mean love and connection, but they are actually a red flag to pay attention to?

Looking for physical and chemical attraction from kiss and the smell of your date may be more reliable than trusting butterflies, but relationship expert and sex guru, Dr. Laura Berman is revealing exactly why you have to practice being self-aware first so you can be more careful of the traps we’re putting ourselves into.

This is the episode you’ve been waiting for. It’s time to sit with yourself and think about how you can start opening the door to the basement of shame. Being clear about what you want is only possible when you’ve taken the time to know yourself and understand why the relationships you thought were great end up feeling like familiar anxiety, distrust, and old trauma wounds.

“The pain of being in the relationship has to be greater than your fear of leaving it, or you’re not going to leave.” Dr. Laura Berman

Healthy relationships, healthy boundaries, self-love, and healing are goals worth pursuing for the radically confident woman.


SHOW NOTES:

0:00 | Introduction to Dr Laura Berman

0:22 | Feeling Butterflies Is A Warning 2.15

9:07 | Why Your Stuck & Not Moving On

14:56 | The Gifts & Strategies of Your Shame

20:08 | What Feeling Are You After?

29:44 | Frequency of Painful Relationships

38:57 | The Sex Romance Stale Mate

49:30 | Sexual Exploration and Connection


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