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#286: How to Deal With Lingering Thoughts About an Ex (Ask Steph)

Preorder my book, The Secure SelfHow do you stop your mind from thinking of your ex, even when the relationship is long over? In today's episode, I'm giving advice to a listener who is struggling with ongoing thoughts of their ex, a year on from the break-up. We'll talk about why ... Show More

12m 4s

Oct 15

#285: How to Respond to Inconsistency and Mixed Messages

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self Being on the receiving end of someone's inconsistent behaviour and mixed messages is a familiar experience for many people with anxious attachment patterns. And yet, the ways we habitually respond — by trying to solve the puzzle, gather informat ... Show More

23m 43s

Oct 9

#284: How to Navigate Self-Doubt and Regret After Walking Away (Ask Steph)

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self on AmazonIn today's episode, I'm giving advice to a listener who recently stepped away from a long-term, long-distance relationship, over concerns that she and her partner were wanting different things. Despite having been the one to end things, ... Show More

21m 16s

Jul 2023

Ep. 197 - When to leave a relationship

Have you ever wondered when it's time to leave vs when it's time to keep working on yourself while staying? Today, we delve into the complex question of when it's time to leave a relationship versus when to keep working on yourself while staying. It's a dilemma that ... Show More

20m 50s

Feb 2024

#57 - "Do I Stay, or Do I Go?"

“Do I stay or go?” “How do I know if a relationship is worth saving?” These are not-so-simple questions to answer, and can cause a lot of discomfort because of the uncertainty they drum up.    <span style="font-wei ... Show More

37m 55s

Aug 2024

634 Unhappy in Your Relationship? How to Know Whether to Stay or Go

Are you tired of trying to make things work with your partner, or feel they are not as invested as you are? Do you feel like you've grown apart in your relationship or feel more like roommates? Or do you wish you had black-and-white ... Show More

22m 38s

Mar 2020

Ep. 23 - Should I stay or should I go

Should I leave the relationship or should I stay? Many individuals come to me confused, doubtful, and full of fear trying to make a decision because they think they'll feel better either with or without this other human. What if I told you, you could make this decis ... Show More

15m 46s

Nov 2023

How to Know When to End a Relationship

Make up or break up? Knowing when to call it quits. If you’ve ever been through a rough patch, you know this is a painful question to answer. Do you stick it out? Do you cut the cord and run? Do you sacrifice more to make it work? Do you demand your partner give up everything and ... Show More

39m 10s

Jul 2024

Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part One) (Re-release)

On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion f ... Show More

38m 46s

Feb 2021

281 Should You Leave? (Decision Guide Inside)

A question that I often get is "I can't decide, should I stay in my relationship or should I go?" This will help you figure out what's best. "Every time we feel pain in a relationship it tells us that something needs out attention." - Terri Cole. Learn more about ... Show More

19m 48s

Aug 2018

Should You Break Up Or Stay Together? | E136

Break up or stay together? Who hasn't wondered the same, during a seriously difficult time in their relationship? Or, entertained an even bigger question: Should you try to save a relationship? How hard should you work? Especially a relationship that has been feeling really hard ... Show More

1h 26m

May 2025

How To Know When To Call It Quits In A Relationship

In this episode, the hosts unpack the complicated process of knowing when it's time to leave a relationship, highlighting the emotional risks, attachment patterns, and fears of regret that often make the decision so difficult. They emphasize that while love and good qualities may ... Show More

48m 36s

Dec 2024

Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Listener Q&A

Should you walk away from a good relationship that’s missing the love you deserve? Is it time to stop waiting for answers from someone who just won’t give you a straight one? And how do you cope with the overwhelming urge to try to win someone back? This week, Sarah’s diving into ... Show More

50m 41s

#19: Should I Stay or Should I Go?