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Jun 2022
43m 26s

Friendship breakups

Jake Ernst & Simon Paluck
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This isn't therapy... it's a conversation about breaking up with a friend. In this episode, Jake and Simon share two stories from the lovely listeners about how they know it's time to say goodbye to a friend and how they know when a friendship has run its course.

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