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Dec 2020
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Do You Try to Change Your Partner? When ...

Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
About this episode

How many times have you thought to yourself “should I bring this up to my partner now, or should I just keep it to myself?” It’s almost a certainty that you have even more than once because all partners will ask themselves this question at one time or another.

The biggest issue here is that if you bring it up it can cause an argument in which you both end up getting upset and can get into an Argument Hangover. On the other side if you don’t say anything it can feel like you have to suppress yourself and ultimately end up feeling resentful. So what is the real answer here when it can feel like a lose-lose situation? 

In this episode we will give you 5 steps to take to be able to answer this question as well as empower both of you to become even better partners to each other. 

 

Resources For Your Relationship:

  1. Make sure to register for the ONE-TIME Couples Event/Training we’re hosting December 9th. You get a copy of our newest book, The Argument Hangover + access to the 90 min training with content that’s never been publicly taught before. Save your seats here
  2. After Dec 9th you can pre-order the book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

 

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

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