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Jun 2022
25m 39s

Do You Have to Be Friends with Everyone?...

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About this episode

What should you do if someone wants to be friends, but you’re not into it? Boundaries are part of all human relationships, but they are TRICKY. This week, part two of our show about boundaries - how to make them, how to keep them, and sometimes, how to breach them - with special guest Dr. Alexandra Solomon, host of Reimagining Love.

 

Notable quotes: 

Boundaries are essentially “need negotiation” between humans. - Megan

 

Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co

 

In this episode we cover:

  • Starting over in a new place with new friends 
  • Why we so often confuse boundaries with being mean or rude
  • The power of social observation to gather data (Megan’s go-to move!) 
  • Scripts for saying “no thank you” to a potential friendship when that feels both mean and necessary

 

Guest Bio:

Dr Alexandra Solomon is one of the most trusted voices in the world of relationships. She’s a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and the author of two bestselling books: Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. You might know her from her popular instagram channel, or from her podcast, Reimagining Love. Find her at https://dralexandrasolomon.com

 

Questions to Carry with you:

Discovering your existing boundaries in disguise! Plus communicating one new boundary. You’ve got this. 

 

Resources: 

Want to train with Dr. Solomon? Check out her current training courses at https://dralexandrasolomon.com

Need a place to tell the whole truth about what you’re going through? Check out the Writing Your Grief course and community, from Megan Devine. Registration for the next session is open now. 

Looking for more training as you navigate grief on the job and in your life? Check out megandevine.co for upcoming workshops 

 

Get in touch: 

Thanks for listening to this week’s episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can’t be made right. 

 

To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co

For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co

For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW

Check out Megan’s best-selling books - It’s Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed

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