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Mar 2022
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Episode 77: Starved For Intimacy

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
Modern technology has made us more connected than ever, but at the same time, many of us feel increasingly disconnected. We just aren’t getting the intimacy we’re craving. We’re starving for a type of intimacy that technology isn’t well-suited to provide. So how can we better meet our need for connection in a digital world? To answer this question, I spoke with Dr. Michelle Drouin, a behavioral scientist and expert on technology, relationships, and sexuality. She is a professor of Psychology at Purdue University—Fort Wayne and a Senior Research Scientist at the Parkview Mirro Center for Research and Innovation. Her latest book is Out of Touch: How to Survive an Intimacy Famine. Some of the topics we explore include:
  • How technology is contributing to an “intimacy famine.”
  • Tips for navigating online dating, including what to do if you aren’t getting any matches and also what to do if you feel overwhelmed by too many options.
  • Whether having more sex can make us happier.
  • Why bedtime routines are crucial to relationship satisfaction.
  • How to cultivate love that lasts.
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