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Jul 2025
1h 15m

Why Intimacy Feels SO Good With the WRON...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

Why do we sometimes get ghosted or friend-zoned after intimacy? How can we navigate mismatched libidos, steer clear of toxic intimacy with the wrong people, or keep the spark alive in long-term relationships? In this episode, Matthew and Audrey sit down with Shan Boodram, a certified sex educator and relationship expert with an M.S. in psychology, for a candid conversation about sex, intimacy, and the unspoken dynamics that shape our love lives.  


Topics covered: 


• Why sex doesn’t always lead to commitment.

• How to confidently communicate your boundaries and desires.

• The psychology behind mismatched libidos and how to address them.

• Why toxic relationships can feel so good (and how to break the cycle).

• Tips for reigniting passion in long-term relationships. 


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