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Mar 2022
42m 36s

"I Love Them, But I'm Not in Love With T...

DR. ALEXANDRA SOLOMON
About this episode
This solo episode focuses on the phrase “I love them, but I’m not in love with them.” Have you heard it in your own life? Dr. Alexandra unpacks what can lie beneath the surface of this phrase and explores the feelings, ideas, and commitments that the world “love” captures for different people. 
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