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Mar 2021
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How do I give myself permission to be ok...

Kati Morton, LMFT
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Audience Questions:

1. I remember in one of your videos a few years ago you mentioned that therapists notice everything. When I'm in therapy, I get distracted because I notice myself not making eye contact, being tense, moving my hands, smiling when I'm talking about something upsetting...

2. How do I give myself permission to be ok with not being ok? I’m afraid of allowing myself to feel as I’ve avoided truly allowing myself to deal for a long time. I’ve had to be strong, or fake being strong, hide the tears, and...

3. I find myself feeling really bad and crying in between sessions, but I can not cry in front of my therapist even though I really want to. It's like I'm blocking my emotions out in therapy, but...

4. I’m going to try again and hope this gets answered this week! My question is: How do I “heal” from anxious attachment? My anxiety surrounding romantic relationships is really making it hard for me to even...

5. I'm super attached to my therapist at the moment and I always have such a hard time between sessions because I miss her so much. I’ve talked to her about my attachment to her and we’re working on it in therapy...

6. I feel so stuck. During the day I try to maintain this unachievable image that I am always happy and bubbly. In my head, I get so critical when I don't meet this image. I feel like I...

7. I almost committed suicide this winter out of pure impulsivity. My therapist was very concerned - I wasn´t. I´m better now and don´t think about suicide all the time. However every now and then those thoughts come back. I thought I was getting better...

8. How should i respond to my therapist asking "how would you like me to accompany you right now?" I know this is about my need in that present moment. Sometimes I want a hug, but am too embarrassed to...

9. Happy Thursday Do attachment issues always stem from early childhood? I get intensely attached to older female authority figures, I have for a long time. I had a fairly 'normal' childhood, my mum was a...

10. How can someone begin the process of moving away from restrictive disordered eating if the thought of giving up the control which restriction seems to give feels terrifying?

11. Odd question. I was in counseling for a little bit because of my depression. For some reason every time my counselor used my name I had instant panic and a rush of anxiety...

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