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Dec 2021
9m 28s

When Perfectionism Becomes Toxic

FOCUS ON THE FAMILY
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As a parent, how do you respond when your son or daughter does something that catches you off guard? John and Danny discuss the importance of giving yourself grace, even when your child does something that embarrasses you. Featuring Crystal Paine.

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