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Nov 2021
37m 14s

It's Not Me, It's You: The Relationship ...

The Angry Therapist
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So many relationship dances, so little time: Avoidant/Anxious, Overfunctioner/Underfunctioner, CODA/Compulsive, Enabler/Enabled. John and Vanessa dive into how they are always trying to become more aware when the cycles start and old patterns take over, and how they can work to break them through naming them. Please rate and review if you feel like this is v ... Show More
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