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Nov 2021

24m 10s

#260: Dealing with Controlling/Manipulat...

Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist

About this episode

How do you handle a child's behavior when it is seemingly manipulative and/or controlling in nature? Erin gets to the heart of the issue, what kids are really trying to tell us and how to help support them overall, and work with them in that moment when they are trying to control the situation or manipulate others into behaving the way they would like.

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