Oct 20

Could You Coach Other Parents?

A lot of parents come to this work to change their own homes, and then something quieter starts to grow. A pull. A sense that maybe this isn’t just for your family. That maybe you’re meant to help other parents find what you found. If you’ve felt even a flicker of that, this epis ... Show More

14m 31s

Oct 13

The Balance Between Strict and Soft

Almost every parent I work with asks me the same question. How do I balance strictness with softness? How can I be firm without being harsh, and soft without being permissive? It feels like you can only be one or the other. Maybe you grew up with a strict parent and swore you’d n ... Show More

17m 5s

Oct 6

The Back-to-School Reset

Back to school time. We brace the kids for a new teacher, a new schedule, and earlier wake times. We purchase the backpack and walk them through it, and tell them they can do it. But no one gives the parent any information about what is ahead. The earlier wake times are also your ... Show More

24m 12s

Jun 2024

Let Your Kids Get Hurt

Bring out the feelings wheel! In this episode, Gwenna and Tori emphasize the importance of allowing children to experience and express their emotions. They share practical tools like the ‘feelings wheel’ and ‘catastrophe scale’ to help children regulate their emotions, and discus ... Show More

45m 16s

Jul 2024

#67 Complaining about kids (Med)

Learn how to talk about your kids when they are a bit challenging.

14m 50s

Jan 2022

When Children Seem Troubled by Our Emotions and Moods

A parent writes that she and her husband are concerned their toddler feels responsible for their emotions. This is a trait they both recognize from their own backgrounds. “He asks again and again, ‘Happy, mommy?’ as if he’s trying to help me be happy.” This mom says that if she a ... Show More

22m 15s

Mar 2020

Anger, Sadness, Fear: Showing Our Emotions to Our Kids

Is it okay to show emotion to our kids? Is it helpful? Too unsettling? A parent has questions for Janet about modeling self-regulation and healthy emotional expression to children. She writes: “These feel like life skills that are harder to explain to your child but can be shown ... Show More

16m 26s

Dec 2020

#212: What to Do When a Child Uses Hurtful Words

How do you stay calm and coach your child when they are using hurtful words? Erin covers what to do in the moment, as well as 4 step process to use in teaching your child better ways of sharing feelings rather than angry mean words. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com ... Show More

18m 40s

Jun 2024

Why Is Her Butt So Big?

Kids say the darnedest things. In this episode, Tori and Gwenna discuss how to handle kids saying mean sh*t. They emphasize teaching children about social norms, empathy, and the impact of their words. They also stress the importance of teaching intent versus impact and navigatin ... Show More

45m 46s

Feb 2020

Dealing with our emotions when we feel triggered by our children

Send us Fan MailAs parents, we can feel triggered by our baby crying for long periods of time, by our toddler acting out or by our 5-year-old ignoring us. We can’t control if and when a trigger will happen, but we can control how we react to triggers. My conversation with Bryana, ... Show More

52m 43s

Oct 2024

We Are Not The Only People Here

If your child has ever screamed in a library, had a melt down in the freezer aisle, or if you've ever felt like apologizing for having kids (you don't!), then this episode is for you. In this episode of Childproof, Tori and Gwenna discuss the unpredictable nature of parenting, pa ... Show More

49m 58s

Aug 2016

#9: What We Say Matters

0:27 – WELCOME Parents, your words matter. You have the power to either offer blessings or curses. Let’s get intentional about what you say around your children and what you say to them. 1:41 – SPECIAL GIFT / FREE SHORT E-BOOK What we say matters. For assistance, download the fre ... Show More

27m 18s

Hurtful Words from Our Children