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May 2020
20m 2s

Hurtful Words from Our Children

MICHELLE KENNEY, M. ED
About this episode
Our kids can really hurt our feelings at times and make us feel the need to eradicate certain language from their vocabulary.  When they say they want a new mommy or they hate us or their siblings, we believe them; why wouldn't we?  We're going to discuss why we choose not to believe them or take it personally and how we manage to let them have those big fee ... Show More
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