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Oct 2021
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25/30 Why Trying to Feel Happy Backfires...

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam
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Happiness may be the outcome of a good life, but if you put all your efforts into happiness, you may end up feeling miserable. People who live rich and fulfilling lives focus on their purpose and their direction - their values - instead of putting all their effort into being happy. 
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