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Jul 4
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The Science of Self-Blame and Depression

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam
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Struggling with depression and self-blame? Learn why it’s not your fault, how guilt fuels depression, and how to break the cycle and heal. Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership

Are you stuck in a cycle of depression, self-blame, and guilt? Do you constantly think, "It’s my fault I feel this way"? In this video, we dive deep into the connection between depression and self-blame, showing how guilt, shame, and blaming yourself can worsen mental health. You'll learn why depression tricks your mind into believing it's all your fault, how excessive guilt fuels deeper depression, and how cognitive distortions keep the cycle alive. We'll also explain the neuroscience behind depression, guilt, and self-blame — and how you can start to break free. If you often feel like "I’m to blame" or "It’s my fault I’m depressed," this video will help you understand the real causes of depression and guide you toward self-compassion, resilience, and emotional healing. Stop letting self-blame and guilt control your life. Learn practical steps to reframe your thinking, heal from depression, and create a healthier, more hopeful future. Watch now and start breaking the cycle.

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Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction.

And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe

If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services.

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