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Jun 2018
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How to Fix Emotional Detachment

DAVID PUDER, M.D.
About this episode

Do you ever feel out of touch with your emotions? Or have you ever felt like you had to hide your real emotions? When people do that—emotionally detach—they develop what therapists call “incongruence.”

Most therapy is actually centered around getting patients back in touch with their emotions. On this week's podcast, Ginger Simonton and I talk about the different methods we use to help our patients develop and maintain healthy emotional congruence.

By listening to this episode, you can earn 1 Psychiatry CME Credits.

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