"Follow your feelings" is the punchline of countless self-help books, and the focus of many therapy sessions. We can spend years in therapy or counseling learning how to respect and obey our emotional guidance system, which will often lead you in the right direction. But the truth is that not all feelings are the same. Sometimes, listening to your emotions w ... Show More
Apr 16
Is Your Secure Bond Missing? How to Build Trust and Feel Safe | Dr. Amir Levine | Happiness | E516
If you want a secure bond but keep feeling activated or shut down, you’re not doomed. A secure bond gets built through emotional intimacy, trust, and safe relationships, not willpower. Most people hear about attachment styles and think, “Okay… that’s me.” But insight alone doesn’ ... Show More
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Apr 13
Parenting Triggers: How to Handle Your Stuff So Your Kids Don’t Have To | Happiness | E515
If parenting is bringing out anger you don’t recognize… you’re not alone. And if anxiety is riding shotgun in your nervous system, same. Today we’re talking emotions, conflict, and repair so you can stay safe and secure even when things get messy. In this conversation, I’m joined ... Show More
1h 5m
Apr 9
How to Fix Communication Problems: Repair Conflict Fast for Trust | Mika Ross | E514
If you have communication problems, you’re probably not fighting about what you think you’re fighting about. And that’s good news. Because the real issue is usually conflict & repair, not the “topic” and with clear boundaries, you can start to repair trust instead of repeating th ... Show More
1h 5m
Mar 2022
154 - Friday Fix: How to Be Mentally Strong When You’re Experiencing Uncomfortable Emotions
Sometimes, people assume that experiencing an uncomfortable emotion (like sadness or anxiety, is a sign of weakness). This is not true. In fact, allowing yourself to fully experience an uncomfortable emotion is a sign of strength, not weakness. It’s easier to push your feelings a ... Show More
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Feb 2023
243 - All the Feels: How to Ride the Emotional Waves
Are you afraid of your feelings? Do you avoid, numb, or shut down your emotions? How much stress and anxiety do you create trying to avoid uncomfortable emotions? Today I want to talk about the power of emotions, and how to reduce your suffering by feeling your emotions all the w ... Show More
15m 30s
Jul 2021
#450: How to Stop Feeling Awful About Yourself
Beating yourself up, or indulging in the emotion of feeling awful about yourself, when you're not where you want to be isn't effective. It's not a helpful thought pattern, and yet, we find ourselves in places of despair. Despair drives us to desperation, depression and disillusio ... Show More
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