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Jul 2021
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#243: How to Avoid Power Struggles with ...

Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist
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A mom wants to know how to avoid power struggles and set a strong foundation for connection and communication even with her very young (9 month old) daughter, since a lot of the positive discipline tools cannot be implemented this early. Is it possible? What should she do to stay out of a power struggle over things her baby shouldn't be doing, trying or getting into? She doesn't want to make a game out of it. Erin shares tools parents can use, even with babies who are just starting to become mobile, but also are great for toddlers, preschoolers and any young child who is struggling with boundaries. Even though babies and young toddlers likely cannot yet talk, or share ideas or wants, there is a lot they can understand and therefore some great tools you can implement to stay out of the struggles.



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