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Nov 2018
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101 SelfWork: Coping with SAD, Shame, Gr...

MARGARET ROBINSON RUTHERFORD PHD
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Do you dread the leaves turning color? Did you have a loss during this year that you’re still grieving and the thought of raising a glass to another year makes you sick to your stomach? Are you looking back at last year and berating yourself for pounds not lost, goals not accomplished? Or are you so perfectionistic, […]

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