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Jun 2021
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How To Set Realistic Expectations For Yo...

MICHELLE
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Welcome back to another Podcast. Today's topic is all about how to set realistic expectations for yourself. Everyone has expectations for themselves. We often assume these expectations are reasonable, yet many of them are not. We expect to work all day, without taking any breaks. We expect to lose weight, without eating right and exercising. We expect to have high energy every day. We expect to experience the same emotions (calm and contentment) all the time. We expect ourselves to be fearless, all the time. We set high expectations because “we idealize the ‘perfect’ outcome.” We assume that in order to feel successful, we need a specific result. We need to get the promotion, or we’ve failed. We need to get an A+ on our test, or we’ve failed. This is a hard way to live, because it creates a lot of needless pressure. Even if we do reach the carrot that dangled in front of us, there’s always another bigger carrot around the corner. It never stops. We never stop and it’s exhausting. Here are tips that can help you: (1). Examine The Expectations Of Yourself. (2). Reconsider Your Expectations For Others. (3). Relax Your Expectations. “You are your own worst enemy. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself and others, you may find the happiness that has always eluded you.” ―Lisa Kleypas, Love in the Afternoon --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/michelle4466/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/michelle4466/support
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