logo
episode-header-image
Apr 2021
34m 37s

#242 - Communication Problems & How to F...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

"We have communication issues" is probably the number-one complaint of most couples coming in for marriage counseling or couples therapy.

Because this is so common, and so frustrating, I am re-releasing my three-part "communication problems" podcast series over the next couple of weeks.

Start here: Listen to this episode to learn about the root cause of communication issues, and the ideas that will help you overhaul your approach.

Next week we'll be talking about what to do if your partner's communication style is angry, hostile, or emotionally reactive.

And then in the following episode we'll be talking about how to communicate with a partner who shuts down.

I sincerely hope that these ideas help you both find your way back together again.

xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

Up next
Today
When Anxious Meets Avoidant (Replay) | E468
This episode originally aired on April 3, 2023 (Episode 343), and we’re bringing it back because it resonated with so many of you. Whether you’re reflecting on a past relationship, navigating one right now, or supporting clients through these dynamics, the lessons are worth revis ... Show More
57m 58s
Aug 18
Feeling Behind? 5 Tips to Reset at Any Life Stage | E467
“Am I falling behind in life?” If you’ve ever looked around and thought everyone else is getting married, buying houses, and having babies while you’re still figuring things out, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re getting real about that sinking, lonely feeling that comes w ... Show More
57m 31s
Aug 18
“I Love You... But I Don’t Like You”: Frustrating Relationships, and How to Deal | E466
Have you ever looked at your partner and thought, “I love you… but right now, I really don’t like you”? It doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. It simply means you’re human. In this episode, we’re getting real about what happens when the warm fuzzies fade and the little thin ... Show More
42m 18s
Recommended Episodes
Feb 2024
Not Everything Needs to Be A Thing: Discerning Between Tension & a True Issue in Marriage: Episode 330
The scenario is that your partner makes a comment, you sense they are a little irritated. They may very well have a frustration but have expressed it with a mild (level 2) upset. Yet you are not in a conflict or argument. But as you talk back and forth, you start giving explanati ... Show More
30m 55s
Aug 2023
114. Avoid the Gottmans’ 4 Horsemen and Save your Relationship
Do you and your partner struggle to communicate? Have you ever experienced… - Things you thought were small issues turn into a blowout fight. - Your partner tells you they feel criticized. - You see your partner walk away in conflict and it makes you upset.         - You’re unsur ... Show More
15m 1s
Sep 2022
90. Why Couples Fight
When couples are fighting, they say things like: I would like to feel more connected to my partner I want to feel understood by my partner I’m unheard and getting resentful I’m tired of fighting about silly stuff I’m walking on eggshells to avoid the next heated fight We struggle ... Show More
20m 39s
Jan 2020
He Wants Time To Process, She Wants To Talk About It Now: Gretchen + Mike "He Said/ She Said On Communication"
Welcome to this new game show type episode called “HE Said/SHE Said”! In this type of episode, on the Empowered Couples podcast, you will laugh, be entertained, and relate to this couple as they find out how they see things differently in their marriage even when they love each o ... Show More
38m 11s
Jan 2024
#1 Way to Fix Bad Communication With Your Guy
The root of most relationship problems can often be traced back to one key element: communication. Ironically, the very thing that may have led you into relationship troubles - poor communication - is also the same tool that can lead you out. Whether the communication issues stem ... Show More
41m 2s
Oct 2023
Improving Poor Communication in the Relationship
This episode will be broken down into three parts. First, it will help you identify if poor communication is negatively affecting your relationship. Second, it will provide practical solutions that you can apply to begin improving the communication. Lastly, it will provide an act ... Show More
11m 41s
Mar 2024
3 Tips To Fix Communication In Your Marriage TODAY
Is your marriage suffering from silent treatment and misunderstandings? Communication problems are common, but don't despair! Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, shares how to rebuild connection and bring back intimacy in marriage with 3 essential tips. In this video, y ... Show More
13m 19s
Jan 2024
Episode 261: Breaking Negative Cycles In Relationships
A negative cycle starts when one partner in a relationship feels hurt and then says something critical. Then, the other partner feels hurt and responds in kind. This repeats over and over, and the hurt feelings escalate. In the last episode, we talked about why these cycles happe ... Show More
31m 59s
Jul 2019
206: When Your Partner Won't Do The Work
Relationships take work. That's why you're here listening to this podcast. One thing you may be running into is an issue with your partner not wanting to work on the relationship with you. They may be resistant, indifferent or simply too busy. Listen to today's show to learn what ... Show More
46m 18s
Oct 2018
167: Help! My Partner's a Control Freak
Today's episode is the most honest and open conversation we've had on this podcast to date. We're no different than any other couple when it comes to relationship issues. We've dealt with control issues in our relationship, and we were happy to talk through our struggles with the ... Show More
1h 6m