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May 2019
20m 56s

It's Time To Take Up Space: Why It's So ...

CARA ALWILL
About this episode

Have you ever found yourself dimming your own light to keep others comfortable? Maybe you don't want to share a major win in your business because you're worried you'll come across as bragging. Maybe you're worried about turning off your colleagues by being proud of your accomplishments. Maybe you're worried about being "too happy" or "too successful" because you think someone else may be annoyed by it?

Whatever the case - it needs to end. When we dim our own light, we send a message that women should not take up space. When we shrink ourselves, we send a message that being confident is something to be ashamed of.

It's time to celebrate our success! It's time to acknowledge how far we've come. This episode will tell you WHY it's so important and HOW to do it.

Thank you to our sponsor, Judi Holler! Check out Judi's brand new book, Fear is My Homeboy here. Learn more about Judi here.

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