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Jun 2018
12m 43s

Episode 103: CHOOSE YOURSELF: Stop Waiti...

CARA ALWILL
About this episode

If you've ever found yourself stalking your email waiting for an employer, publisher, blogger, or ANYONE to say "yes" then you know exactly what it's like to feel powerless. The moment we put our success in the hands of others is the moment we lose control of our future. In this episode, I'm sharing my own experience with choosing myself and the shifts you need to make to stop waiting for permission and go get every single thing you want. Your future is waiting on you. STOP WAITING ON SOMEONE ELSE.

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