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Sep 2024
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Episode 85: Why being Selfish is the key...

Valerie Jones
About this episode

Do you feel confused, frustrated or discouraged because you're not seeing the results you want yet? 

If so, this episode is for you! 

I'm sharing my story about how I've been feeling this way, and why I know it's a sign that the next big level is close! 

I'm also giving you the 3 steps you need to take right now, that will get you to that next level faster, and why being selfish is the key to it all. 

If you're a regular around here, I know you have big goals and dreams, so you need to listen to this one! 

And if you're new, welcome! 

Got a question you want me to answer on the pod? Email me! 

Valerie@valeriejonescoach.com

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