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Nov 2020
16m 17s

How to Give Up a Grudge

PRX AND GREATER GOOD SCIENCE CENTER
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What does it really take to forgive someone? And why should we do it? Our guest, psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman, tries a practice to let go of anger.

Link to Episode Transcript: https://tinyurl.com/24txsbxz

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