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Feb 2020
17m 43s

42: Why Do I Binge When I Feel Shame

Carolyn Coker Ross, MD, MPH
About this episode

In this episode, I will be discussing how shame that can start in childhood can impact your eating behaviors, self-confidence, and self-acceptance.

Homework to journal about :

Exercise: 1.  Picture yourself at your family's dinner table.  Ask yourself which foods were "forbidden" to you and why.  What emotion did you feel? 2.  Next, imagine a time when you felt shame about your body or your size.  What emotion did you feel? 3.  Now go back to each situation in 1 and 2 above and do the following: Practice saying at least one encouraging statement in each situation.  For example:  "I am worthy to eat what my body desires" or "I am proud of my strong body."  The goal is to challenge the shame and instead of hiding because of it or binging to escape it, finding a way to have compassion for yourself and realize that you don't have to be perfect to deserve compassion.

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