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Sep 2020
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The Journey of Finding Love Again and Di...

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When it comes to finding a naseeb, it seems like the odds are stacked against us from the start. But as a divorcee, the challenges are stacked even higher.

In Ep. 30 of Season 2, we sit down with Lisa Vogl to talk about life post-divorce, the collateral damage that comes with it and how our community can band together to help change the negative perception of divorced women.

Unfortunately, women are often seen as the reason for the divorce, even when it wasn’t their fault. We dive into the Scarlett Letter that divorced women are forced to wear and the cloud of negativity that seems to follow them around.

Are the women in our community equally to blame for the way we view divorcees, too? Let's collectively learn how to quit the gossip and stop viewing divorced women as a “last option” for men who are looking for a potential partner.

We also discuss opening ourselves up to a new relationship and how its never an easy thing to do, especially when factoring in previous experiences and hardships.  Lisa explains what values she holds close to her heart and the red flags she keeps an eye out for.

Divorce isn’t a bad word, and it definitely shouldn’t determine our worth as women, because no matter what the circumstances are, you are not defined by your marital status.


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***If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please reach out for help by contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline***


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