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Nov 2019
49m 2s

Counting Other People's Blessings

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Envy is one of the most unpleasant of all human emotions. It also turns out to be one of the most difficult for researchers to study. And yet, there's mounting evidence that envy is a powerful motivator. This week, we explore an emotion that can inspire us to become better people — or to commit unspeakable acts. 
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