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Feb 2020
49m 6s

Gretchen Rubin on Living Skillfully

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Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. Gretchen is known for her ability to distill and convey complex ideas with humor and clarity in a way that’s accessible to a wide audience. She is the author of many books which have sold over 3.5 million copies worldwide in more than 30 languages. She also has an award-winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. In this episode, Eric and Gretchen talk about how being strategic and smart about the ways we approach our habits and behavior can radically impact our likelihood of success.

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In This Interview, Gretchen Rubin and I Discuss Living Skillfully and…

  • How feeding our bad wolf can feel easier sometimes
  • How not eating sugar actually makes her feel better
  • Abstainers and Moderators
  • Trying different approaches until you find the one that works for you
  • Decision fatigue
  • The 4 Tendencies Model: the way people respond to expectations
  • Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, Rebel
  • Knowing your tendency type can help your tailor your approach and be more successful at living skillfully.
  • Where personality comes from
  • How much people can realistically change in life
  • What and how much is really in our control
  • The 21 Strategies of Habit Change
  • How cravings inevitably come and go (rather than the myth that they build and build until they overwhelm us)
  • Accepting yourself AND expecting more from yourself

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