Men are horny all of the time, and all they want is sex! At least this is what popular culture tells us. Our guest today is here to tell us why that's not true, and how this common narrative is negatively impacting our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn the research behind this and how we can use this knowledge to improve our relationship. In ... Show More
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If I Have To Ask, It Doesn't Count
Why does it feel so disappointing to ask for what you want? In this episode, we unpack the hidden belief that “if I have to ask, it doesn’t count” — and how that mindset turns simple needs (compliments, celebration, affection) into silent resentment. We explore the shame, fear of ... Show More
53m 34s
Feb 23
Why Everyone Thinks Their Partner Is a Narcissist
When someone says, “I think my partner is a narcissist,” they’re usually not chasing a diagnosis—they’re trying to make sense of a relationship that feels controlling, confusing, and painful. This episode slows it way down and compares narcissism with insecure attachment patterns ... Show More
53m 35s
Dec 2023
Episode 253: Resolutions For Better Sex In 2024 (Essential Listen)
<p>Every time a new year rolls around, people start making resolutions for self-improvement. As you start to think about your own resolutions, consider resolving to have better sex. With the right set of resolutions, you can address problem areas in the bedroom, rekindle the spar ... Show More
39m 15s
Aug 2023
Episode 214: Common Sex Questions, Answered
<p>If you ask any sex educator, researcher, or therapist what the most common question they receive is, they’re probably going to have a very quick answer. People ask us a LOT of sex questions—and the same ones have a tendency of popping up over and over again. So let’s tal ... Show More
37m 25s
Apr 2024
Episode 281: Tips For Navigating Non-Monogamy
<p>Interest in non-monogamy is on the rise, with nationally representative US surveys now finding that approximately one-third of American adults say their ideal relationship would be sexually open. But if you want to give this a try, what do you need to know? In today’s show, we ... Show More
32m 19s
Feb 2023
Episode 171: How to Initiate Sex
<p>A lot of people struggle with sexual initiation. In fact, this is one of the most common topics that readers and listeners ask me about! So why is sexual initiation so hard, and what can we do to make it easier? Let’s talk about it!</p>
<p>For today’s show, I am joined o ... Show More
28m 22s