Men are horny all of the time, and all they want is sex! At least this is what popular culture tells us. Our guest today is here to tell us why that's not true, and how this common narrative is negatively impacting our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn the research behind this and how we can use this knowledge to improve our relationship. In ... Show More
Jan 12
Individuation
In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla unpack the second pillar of a secure relationship: individuation—the idea that what it’s like to be me is different than what it’s like to be you. They explore how differences in processing, upbringing, values, and sensory experiences ca ... Show More
55m 37s
Jan 8
Marriage 2026: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME TIGHT - Workshop Jan 31 and Feb 1, 2026 Join Cayla Bozovich, LPC, EFCT for a jam packed and fun weekend of learning abou ... Show More
12m 27s
Jan 5
The First Pillar of A Secure Relationship (Window of Tolerance)
Window of Tolerance helps explain why one partner often wants to keep talking while the other shuts down, speeds up, or feels totally overwhelmed. In this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren unpack how nervous systems have different thresholds, what it looks like to be inside vs. ... Show More
55m 24s
Dec 2023
Episode 253: Resolutions For Better Sex In 2024 (Essential Listen)
<p>Every time a new year rolls around, people start making resolutions for self-improvement. As you start to think about your own resolutions, consider resolving to have better sex. With the right set of resolutions, you can address problem areas in the bedroom, rekindle the spar ... Show More
39m 15s
Aug 2023
Episode 214: Common Sex Questions, Answered
<p>If you ask any sex educator, researcher, or therapist what the most common question they receive is, they’re probably going to have a very quick answer. People ask us a LOT of sex questions—and the same ones have a tendency of popping up over and over again. So let’s tal ... Show More
37m 25s
Apr 2024
Episode 281: Tips For Navigating Non-Monogamy
<p>Interest in non-monogamy is on the rise, with nationally representative US surveys now finding that approximately one-third of American adults say their ideal relationship would be sexually open. But if you want to give this a try, what do you need to know? In today’s show, we ... Show More
32m 19s
Feb 2023
Episode 171: How to Initiate Sex
<p>A lot of people struggle with sexual initiation. In fact, this is one of the most common topics that readers and listeners ask me about! So why is sexual initiation so hard, and what can we do to make it easier? Let’s talk about it!</p>
<p>For today’s show, I am joined o ... Show More
28m 22s