Men are horny all of the time, and all they want is sex! At least this is what popular culture tells us. Our guest today is here to tell us why that's not true, and how this common narrative is negatively impacting our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn the research behind this and how we can use this knowledge to improve our relationship. In ... Show More
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Anger in Relationships
Anger can feel disruptive in relationships, but it often shows up for a reason: it signals that something important feels blocked, unfair, or violated. In this episode, we explore how anger can either push partners into blame, shutdown, and disconnection, or help clarify needs, v ... Show More
59m 21s
May 28
‘You Can’t Do This’ Is NOT A Boundary
If there is one thing to know about boundaries, it is that a boundary is not about what you need somebody else to do. It is about what you are going to do in response to somebody else’s behavior. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren discuss boundaries from a psychotherapeutic lens and give ... Show More
43m 29s
May 25
Withdrawers: When Keeping the Peace Backfires
In this episode, the crew dives into the “withdrawer” role in relationships and how rigid, all-or-nothing responses can quietly create disconnection. They unpack why withdrawers often appease, shut down, or avoid conflict altogether — not because they don’t care, but because disa ... Show More
55m 43s
Dec 2023
Episode 253: Resolutions For Better Sex In 2024 (Essential Listen)
<p>Every time a new year rolls around, people start making resolutions for self-improvement. As you start to think about your own resolutions, consider resolving to have better sex. With the right set of resolutions, you can address problem areas in the bedroom, rekindle the spar ... Show More
39m 15s
Aug 2023
Episode 214: Common Sex Questions, Answered
<p>If you ask any sex educator, researcher, or therapist what the most common question they receive is, they’re probably going to have a very quick answer. People ask us a LOT of sex questions—and the same ones have a tendency of popping up over and over again. So let’s tal ... Show More
37m 25s
Apr 2024
Episode 281: Tips For Navigating Non-Monogamy
<p>Interest in non-monogamy is on the rise, with nationally representative US surveys now finding that approximately one-third of American adults say their ideal relationship would be sexually open. But if you want to give this a try, what do you need to know? In today’s show, we ... Show More
32m 19s
Feb 2023
Episode 171: How to Initiate Sex
<p>A lot of people struggle with sexual initiation. In fact, this is one of the most common topics that readers and listeners ask me about! So why is sexual initiation so hard, and what can we do to make it easier? Let’s talk about it!</p>
<p>For today’s show, I am joined o ... Show More
28m 22s